Archive for Public Behavior
Two weeks ago, a 5 year old tantruming about apple juice forced an emergency landing of a flight headed for North Carolina out of NYC. See details here:
Okay, this is where I have both compassion, and shock.
It is likely that this child was so far out of control…that no one felt that they knew what to do. I have been there…and see kids turning white and parents afraid they will pass out. You and I have both seen embarrassed parents who just don’t know how to handle their tantruming child!
The good news is that this was the “Grand Performance” that occurred after many dress rehearsals.
In other words, this child has tantrumed many, many times before and mom and dad just haven’t handled it well. The “dress rehearsals” have happened at home, at the grocery store, the park, and maybe even at pre-school.
When behavior is extreme, it can be scary…but it doesn’t change the approach. Some of you have worked through such difficult challenges with your children by using solid approaches that really work. It would be great to share with other parents the sense of optimism (AND RELIEF) that comes from discovering that things do get better with a change in strategy!
Randy Cale, PhD
I applaud your parenting! It is a very hard thing to admit “our babies” can be less than perfect, but by recognizing it, you now have the opportunity to emphasize the valuable lessons you are focusing on. By accepting the criticisms of those in proximity of your kids (when offered in a caring mannor) you were modeling respect as well! Practicing what you preach…well done!
I’m posting with regards to the family that was thrown off of the airplane due to their three year olds’ tantrum. The posts I’ve read regarding this incident (and believe me, there are THOUSANDS) are really disturbing. The majority believe that the airline acted appropriately, which in it of itself may be fine, but the reasons for which people are agreeing with them is what’s frightening. Read More→