Archive for Public Behavior

Jul
07

Tantrum Downs Airplane

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Two weeks ago, a 5 year old tantruming about apple juice forced an emergency landing of a flight headed for North Carolina out of NYC.   See details here:

» http://www.nbc10.com/news/13575254/detail.html

Okay, this is where I have both compassion, and shock. 

It is likely that this child was so far out of control…that no one felt that they knew what to do.  I have been there…and see kids turning white and parents afraid they will pass out.  You and I have both seen embarrassed parents who just don’t know how to handle their tantruming child! 

The good news is that this was the “Grand Performance” that occurred after many dress rehearsals. 

In other words, this child has tantrumed many, many times before and mom and dad just haven’t handled it well.   The “dress rehearsals” have happened at home, at the grocery store, the park, and maybe even at pre-school. 

 When behavior is extreme, it can be scary…but it doesn’t change the approach.  Some of you have worked through such difficult challenges with your children by using solid approaches that really work.  It would be great to share with other parents the sense of optimism (AND RELIEF) that comes from discovering that things do get better with a change in strategy!

Randy Cale, PhD
 

I applaud your parenting! It is a very hard thing to admit “our babies” can be less than perfect, but by recognizing it, you now have the opportunity to emphasize the valuable lessons you are focusing on. By accepting the criticisms of those in proximity of your kids (when offered in a caring mannor) you were modeling respect as well! Practicing what you preach…well done!

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Feb
17

Communication with Teachers

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I recently had an experience with my sons teacher that ended up disconnecting parent teacher communication. At my request and the teachers agreement we kept in contact and I was regularly informed of my sons concerning behavior at school. This was the way it was until the teacher took a suggestion of how to avoid a problem very personally. The teacher took things so personal that at their request there will no longer be communication regarding my son unless it is very serious. I would like to connect with my sons teacher without drama. Shouldn’t it be about teaching well and not about personal feelings.

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Feb
04

Afraid To Fly

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I’m posting with regards to the family that was thrown off of the airplane due to their three year olds’ tantrum. The posts I’ve read regarding this incident (and believe me, there are THOUSANDS) are really disturbing. The majority believe that the airline acted appropriately, which in it of itself may be fine, but the reasons for which people are agreeing with them is what’s frightening. Read More→

About Dr Cale

During the past 23 years, in working with hundreds of families, I began to realize that many parents, just like you, were showing up in my office well-educated—but getting poor results. They had been to therapy, they had read the books and even attended other training programs—yet their children were still not listening, not doing homework and not cooperating.

I discovered that many of these parents were parenting with false ideas about how to predictable and reliably shape and change their children’s behavior. As a result, I began to develop ideas about the core behavior change principles…and how to turn each of these into specific parenting solutions. As long as I was able to stay true to these principles, the most challenging problems quickly faded away.

My purpose with this program is to give you access to the strategies that come from these core principles. By practicing and following through with the techniques in this program, you will be able to transform any set of negative behavior patterns in your home. Your kids will be happier and more responsible. They will quickly learn to be respectful, cooperative and helpful around the house. Tantrums, whining, complaining and negativity will be a thing of the past.