Greetings & Welcome!
Many of you may be familiar with the Essential Parenting program and the principles I have been teaching for years. While it would be tempting to claim that there are some special powers associated with the success of this program and others I have created but I can’t do that because it would be a lie.
Instead, the magic is in the core behavior change principles!
When properly understood, these principles lead to specific parenting strategies that unlock your power to shape and change your child’s behavior. These core behavior change principles have transformed the lives of thousands of children without ever an ounce of psychotherapy or efforts to verbally convince children to behave better.
So very briefly let me summarize how we got here.
During the past 23 years, in working with hundreds of families, I began to realize that many parents, just like you, we’re showing up in my office well-educated but getting poor results. They had been to therapy, they had read the books, and even attended other training programs yet their children were still not listening, not doing homework, and not cooperating.
I discovered that many of these parents were parenting with false ideas about how to predictable and reliably shape and change their children’s behavior. As a result, I began to develop ideas about the core behavior change principles and how to turn each of these into specific parenting solutions. As long as I was able to stay true to these principles, the most challenging problems quickly faded away.
My purpose with this program is to give you access to the strategies that come from these core principles. By practicing and following through with the techniques in this program, you will be able to transform any set of negative behavior patterns in your home.
Your kids will be happier and more responsible. They will quickly learn to be respectful, cooperative, and helpful around the house. Tantrums, whining, complaining and negativity will be a thing of the past.
I am confident in the Essential Parenting program because I’ve seen it work time and time again. You will too if you remain consistent and apply these techniques and the lessons taught in this program.
I am Dr. Randy Cale and I have been writing articles and creating solutions for parents for the past 10 years. Many of these articles can be found on our sister website, Terrific Parenting. As I have been writing to the Terrific Parenting community of parents and teachers, they have become a loyal and trusted source of feedback and guidance. With the explosion of online forums for discussion, many parents began to express a desire to dialogue with other parents … and to learn from the practical wisdom of everyday life in the trenches.
And so…the idea began. The Terrific Parenting Blog has at its core a group of dedicated contributors (I call them my anchor group) of parents who raise issues and offer their regular contributions. Their participation is critical to this community and so is yours. They offer us all a window into their lives so we can have a wide range of perspectives and experiences … to serve as a springboard for more discussion and learning.
So please join in. We all want to hear from you … including the good, the bad … and the ugly!
In fact, my primary focus is to keep this real. I want it to reflect reality, and what we can all learn from the day-to-day life of committed parents. It’s not just about when things go well. It’s about the struggles. It’s about the disagreements. It’s about the successes. And the failures. It’s about life.
We designed the community so that you can easily search topics, and find comments, learnings, and recommendations as well as links to other websites and resources.
About Terrific Parenting
“Very briefly…let me summarize how we got here. Over the past 15 years, in working with hundreds of families, I began to realize that many of the books, training programs, and advice that parents receive from other therapists and well-intentioned parents often “miss the mark” because they do not pay attention to the fundamentals. Why…I don’t know. But the fundamentals contain the secret to long-term success!
My purpose with Terrific Parenting is to give parents access to these fundamentals. By practicing and following through with the principles on my website, in my newsletter, and my various programs, you will be able to transform your home. Your kids will be happier and more responsible…and conflict will be a thing of the past. I am confident because I’ve seen it work time and time again. You will too if you remain consistent and apply these principles with precision.”
About Capital District Neurofeedback
My goal is to provide state-of-the-art Neuromapping (QEEG), and then bring about positive transformation in the brain with intensive Neurofeedback training. At Capital District Neurofeedback (CDN), I do this by providing an integrative set of services, with not only Neuromapping of the brain and Neurofeedback, but also by providing you with supportive therapeutic services to ensure that your treatment goals are obtained.
These therapeutic support services are designed to maximize the benefit of re-training a brain to work at its best, using Neurofeedback. We do this incorporating a Bio-Psycho-Social model of mental health, which acknowledges the impact of multiple variables on how we function day today.
Brief Bio Of Dr. Randy Cale
Dr. Randy Cale is a native of Virginia, where he obtained his Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and Sociology. He went on to obtain a Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology from James Madison University and his Ph.D. in Psychology from the State University of New York at Albany. He currently maintains a coaching practice, as well as a private practice in Clifton Park, N.Y., where he specializes in working with parents and families.
His two decades of work with parents and children led him to develop the “Terrific Parenting” precept; a set of relatively simple, yet profoundly powerful parenting principles. These simple ideas, when executed consistently, transform the lives of children and families.
A sought-after public speaker, Dr. Cale has written numerous articles, authored books and audio products on parenting, contributed to national publications on parenting and childcare, and has presented his materials to thousands of parents and professionals. He is a regular guest on television and has been featured in numerous articles discussing his success with children and families. In addition, Dr. Cale works directly with parents throughout the country via telephone and teleconferencing in his coaching practice.
Dr. Cale is a licensed psychologist in the State of New York. He has a private practice working with families on a wide array of behavioral and psychological issues. His extensive experience in working with challenging situations has allowed him to distill the key principles and strategies needed to improve specific behavioral challenges.
For the past ten years, Dr. Cale has spoken with thousands of parents through presentations and workshops. He consults with teachers and school systems to develop effective ways to teach children about the Habits Of Success. In addition, he has worked with many challenging families through his private practice. He has a unique ability to explain complex information in simple, yet powerful ways that will naturally enhance your influence as a parent.
There are many sources of information on parenting. Unfortunately, much of this advice is offered by well-intentioned parents who have experienced particular difficulties, and have perhaps overcome these. At times, this type of advice is helpful. However, often this information makes things worse because the authors do not understand where your influence — your power — as a parent comes from. Few parents have the breadth of experience to distill the key fundamentals that create influence for you as a parent. That’s what you get here…that’s hard to find from other sources.
Another problem occurs when the material offered to parents focuses on specific techniques and strategies that vary for each specific problem. It’s as if you have to have 27 different parenting strategies. That’s not the case with Terrific Parenting.
While Dr. Cale does address many specific problems, the articles and products will repeatedly encourage you to pay attention to the fundamental principles…so that you can begin to understand how these principles affect every parenting decision. You can then begin to make choices from a position of confidence and power. In fact, the astute parent will begin to notice the unique consistency with which these principles guide each strategy and parenting solution offered by Dr. Cale.